Partner exchange: a practical guide and tips to get you started
Couples have evolved in recent years, thanks in part to a more open mentality. Thanks to this evolution we can say that swinging is becoming more and more common.
If you and your partner are interested in using this practice to add a plus to your life, you should know that it is an option. However, before putting it into practice, both parties must be in agreement and not see it as infidelity. If one of the two parties does not agree or is not sure, then it will be better to leave it for later.
What is swinging?
We can define it as a practice of an open relationship in which one partner exchanges with another. It can be for sexual or just social relations. Normally the objective is usually sexual through a liberal activity. But as we have discussed, it is vital that all parties concerned agree to the practice.
When opting for partner swapping, it is important that the original partner talks to reach an agreement on what can and cannot be done. To give you an idea, some couples want to have sex in the same room, others want to have sex in private… Reaching a consensus is important so that the experience can be positive. You can even reach an agreement to see what is the limit within the sexual practices.
A study has shown that swinging is becoming more and more popular because couples are becoming more and more open. But the same study indicates that the experience is not always as positive as one might first think. To be successful, not only do both parties have to be totally convinced, but you have to find a partner with whom both parties are a good match, and that’s not always easy. For that reason, if you find a partner and you do not end up fitting, the best thing to do is to look for another option. One of the worst things you can do is to force the situation, everything has to come out freely.
It is important to let go of prejudices in order to have a chance to enjoy the experience. For example, you should get the idea out of your head that your partner has proposed this idea to you because he or she no longer sees you as sexually attractive or is no longer in love. It is a technique to enjoy new things and you have to enjoy them as a couple. Likewise, you must be clear that you are not sharing your partner because he or she is not yours. Remember, a partner is not a possession.
It is clear that letting go of prejudices will help to make the experience more enjoyable. And as in the sexual world, all experiences will not be equally pleasurable.
Is it easy to propose a partner exchange?
To propose a partner swap, it is essential to have a solid sexual confidence, which is reflected in the ability to talk openly about sex and share fantasies without judgment or insecurities. If this trust is present, raising the idea will be easier; if not, it is important to strengthen it first.
When broaching the subject, it is advisable to speak from one’s own perspective, expressing personal desires and needs, and to listen to the partner without judgment. Effective and respectful communication is key for both of you to feel safe when discussing such a proposal.
Tips for practicing swinging
If this is the first time you are going to enjoy a couple exchange and you are sure you want to enjoy the experience, it is time to take into account the following information.
- Communication: before taking the step it is essential to talk calmly to see if both parties really have the same thought. If one of the two parties does not agree, under no circumstances should you opt for the step of obligation. Everything has to be voluntary so that both parties can enjoy. If you need more time, take that time.
- Complicity: you can choose a word or gesture through which you can communicate and leave the relationship in case one of the two parties is not comfortable.
- Dialogue after the exchange: it is important to talk about the experience to see if both parties liked it or not. Knowing the different points of view always helps to improve the relationship in the future and thus achieve better experiences.
- Condom: surely during the communication period you agreed that both parties have to use a condom. It is a protection tool that will prevent possible unwanted pregnancies and health problems. Protection should always be important in order to achieve a good result.
- Goal: always have a clear goal to achieve. You should not go without any goal, you should always have clear things to enjoy.
As the escorts who have helped us to write this article comment, swingers can be considered as a great tool to enter the liberal world. Likewise, it is a great option to break prejudices and get to know that there are many other things to choose from. If you want to get out of the traditional, this technique can be of great help.
With good communication and sincerity, it is possible to fully enjoy, and besides experiencing pleasure, you can achieve something very valuable: strengthen the complicity with your partner. Taking care of sexuality in the relationship is not only positive, but also essential. Exploring practices such as exchanges can be an excellent way to contribute to this care, promoting mutual connection and understanding.